Growing up, the only certain thing about my future was that I would go to college. The only question was where. Beyond that, there was no speculation about what I would do, just the assumption I would become a college-educated housewife like almost all the women in my parents social circle. Working with Saul on this part of the project was so much fun, because he gave me new insights into that role for women then. I see that this photo shows the underlying aspirations of women who may have chosen differently if there had been more options open to them. The kitchen becomes their kingdom, where they can achieve, create, nourish, and rule. “I will conquer the world with this cake I am making!”
I admire women who choose to stay home and raise their children. The question is choice. In the 50's, the options were very limited, and social expectations were very strong. When Amy asked us to think about what we wanted to be growing up, I thought back to grammar school and finally remembered that in my secret heart I wanted to be a cowgirl. I longed for independence, adventure, and the outdoor life. What was thrilling about remembering this was that I could see how this actually did shape some of my decisions as an adult. I never actually became a cowgirl, but did a number of things that grew out of that longing. It was very special to re-connect with that part of myself.